>Jack’s dad however lectured him Friday night after I left about how he should not take our
>relationship seriously. He needs to keep dating. He didn’t say anything bad about me specifically just
>that I’m not what Jack needs (read: what he envisions for Jack). Which is fine. I can understand a
>parent having a different vision. I suppose if Jack, his sister and mother all approve of me he’ll just
>have to deal with being overruled 3 to 1.
Um… that is absolute shit.
Seriously, look out. That tells you a WHOLE LOT about the guy.
1. He doesn’t care if Jack is actually happy, rather he cares if he is happy with Jack.
2. Sounds like he is still pretty controlling about Jack’s decisions, there comes a time when a fathers authority is not an absolute, and only exists because the son allows it. Hopefully Jack won’t allow his father to assert such authority over him.
3. DAMN! People suck. I can’t quite put into words all the bad impressions this would put into my head.
4. Doesn’t sound like he is acting out of love for his son, but more love for himself – see 1.
5. How can he possibly know at all what Jack needs? Unless they are very close??? which is doubtful, usually the good relationship between father and son exists in adult hood becasue of the separation of the two after adolescence.
Then again… I could imagine my father saying something similar to me, if I brought the right person home. My relationship with my father would allow me to take it in a positive way. Meaning I wouldn’t put much weight on it, and I would partially know where he is coming from. At the same time, I know my pops well enough to know he probably wouldn’t say something like that.
SHIT… I should post this, because I’m obviously reading WAY more into this than are you…and it certainly is not my place….